You Are a Bad Person- The Burden of Survivors

“You are a bad person.” “What’s wrong with you?” “Its your fault.” “You brought this on yourself.” This was the general theme that seems to surround victims of sexual abuse. Society blames them, abusers blame them, and they tend to also blame themselves. Abuse is not the fault of the victim but we seem to coddle the abusers and look to the abused for their flaws, their issues, their defect that caused this problem they are unfortunately having to know about. How inconvenient our pain is to the world. Someone…